Coming out of hibernation February 17, 2016 17:18

I am not going to lie, my son and I have been hibernating, and down with the post-holiday blues. Well, post-Chinese New Year blues.

So now that we are home, we are settling back into our usual routine again.

I decided during the holidays that upon our return, I am going to sleep-train him.

Some background - he has always been a not-so-great sleeper. He only slept through the night at around 16 weeks. I have been told by many people (and literature) that average babies sleep through the night around 10-13 weeks. Of course, every baby is different. 

After that, he was sleeping through the night for quite a few months, until he started the dreaded T - teething. His sleep was a mayhem. He would go from sleeping through the night to waking up every hour or so. It was a killer. Personally, I have always found interrupted sleep to be worse than a short, uninterrupted sleep. Give me 5 hours over 8 intermittent hours everyday.

Eventually he kind of found his groove again, and he would sleep through the night maybe 5 out of 7 nights a week. And it has stayed this way.

This is all on top of the fact that every night, he needs someone there to feel secure enough to sleep. He prefers to be hugged and carried to sleep, sometimes snuggled and carried. When he's asleep, I will move him into his own bed, in his own room. But throughout the night, he will wake up and cry and I will go over to his room.

My pediatrician says that this is the real reason he wakes up at night - he associates being hugged, sung to, patted, coddled etc as the only way to sleep. So when he wakes up at night, all alone, he can't go back to sleep. He is unable to self-sooth.

Thus, he suggests I embark on a sleep-training programme to encourage him to self-sooth. In the long run, he will still wake up at night, but he will be able to sooth himself back to sleep.

So how have I been doing this? Since a couple of nights ago (and his daytime naps), I have simply placed him in his bed. I will kiss him and tell him it's sleep time, and I will sit in the corner of his room. I will stay there till he falls asleep.

Some literature will tell you to leave the room, and let him cry it out - but I really can't. I have nothing but respect for parents who can do that, and I know it is efficient, but I cannot do it. It breaks my heart to hear him cry.

He's been doing this with the company of his beloved bunny. The pediatrician recommended we give him a soft toy, something that will keep him company and make him feel a little more secure. So, I gave him an organic bunny and he has been doing great. I really highly recommend this organic soft toy, both it's filling and outer shell are organic! Take a look here -

It's been pretty successful. The first night, it took 75mins. By naptime the next day, it was down to 60mins. Last night, it took him 30mins to fall asleep. I am hoping it will get shorter and shorter.

Eventually I will leave the room before he falls asleep. But I will do it slowly, baby steps, one day at a time. 

Will keep you guys posted!